Monday, July 08, 2013

How looking for a job is like looking for love

Through my job search, I've realized that there are a lot of similarities between job hunting and looking for love: 

When you're looking for a job or looking for love....
There will be lots of moments of self-doubt. Sending your resume across after a promising chat with an recruiter only to not hear back from them ever again is confidence shattering. Very similar to the moments when you hit it off with the perfect girl/guy only to be given the cold shoulder later on. It happens again and again. It is quiet painful. But we don't stop searching for love just like we don't stop searching for the right opportunity because of a couple of setbacks along the way. 

When you're looking for a job or looking for love...
It is basically a numbers game. You have to put yourself out there. Every rejection at least means that you have explored that opportunity. If you haven't explored it, then you would've avoided the embarrassing rejection but it also means that you rejected yourself long before you gave the chance to someone else. It is the same as to love. 

When you're looking for a job or looking for love....
You are not going to be perfect for everyone, just like you are not going to be perfect for every job. But you better believe that you are perfect in your own way. Eventually, somewhere out there, there will be someone who appreciates you for who you are. And one is all you need. 

When you're looking for a job or looking for love....
It is an brutal process of introspection and growth. Similar to the courtship during a relationship, we become aware of our weaknesses and blindsides when courting a new job opportunity. We learn from this and become wiser upon every encounter.

When you're looking for a job or looking for love....
Lot of times you are being led on. The hiring manager may make positive noises just to keep you hanging around, which is pretty similar to what some guys and girls do to potential dates. Pretty cruel, but it is a fact of life. 


When you're looking for a job or looking for love....
You will be surrounded by people who are willing to help. Your friends and family will be there to support you along the ride. Sometimes, we just need to stop being so proud and receive the kindness of others 

I believe that if we are not put in situations where we have to change to adapt then we will forever be stagnant. I've resigned from my last job with the confidence that everything will turn out alright to do a year long sabbatical. I'm a natural optimist; so that was easy for me. Yet, I didn't know if it was going to be alright. In fact, it wasn't alright. The job market was horrible; the experience itself has served as a humbling experience for me. Nevertheless, I believe that an life that is limited by your fears is not worth living. Was I worried that I wasn't going to find a job when I come back? Of course I was. But that is the same thing as being worried about losing our jobs tomorrow. Of course we worry about the future and fear the unknown. I think the trick is to never let that fear get in the way of us living or loving. Fear of things shouldn't be what guides your life; the love you have for life should be the driving engine towards all the wonderful experiences that life is willing to offer, if you would only stretch out a little bit and reach.

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